Is there anything I can do to calm my grandmother with Alzheimer's down?

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i just recently lost my grandma who was diagnosed with alzheimers two years ago.  i moved in and took care of her literally as long as i could until she became too much to bear with 2 school age children and a toddler. so we had to seek out extra help.  but as a caretaker teh best thing i can tell you is taht you are pretty much dealing with a toddler right now.  so honestly the best thing to do is behave in the same way you would with a 3 year old.  try to keep thigns as familar as you can adn try to stay as calm as you can.  believe me if they see you upset it makes them more apt to argue and go on.  good luck, i know firsthand its hard.  i lost both my grandmothers to this disease but like i said i watched it firsthand destroy my granny who died in april.  all the medicine in the world does not help.  just be calm and keep life as familiar as you can. dont argue and really get ready to deal with a baby, cuz thats what it was like for me. but i would have done it a million times over and i miss her more every day.

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  • Environment is key - simplify and comfort
    • Create a calm environment.
      Remove stressors. This may involve moving the person to a safer or quieter place, or offering a security object, rest or privacy. Try soothing rituals and limiting caffeine use.
    • Avoid environmental triggers.
      Noise, glare and background distraction (such as having the television on) can act as triggers.
    • Monitor personal comfort.
      Check for pain, hunger, thirst, constipation, full bladder, fatigue, infections and skin irritation. Make sure the room is at a comfortable temperature. Be sensitive to fears, misperceived threats and frustration with expressing what is wanted.
    • Simplify tasks and routines.
    • Provide an opportunity for exercise.
      Go for a walk. Garden together. Put on music and dance.
  • Listen to the frustration.
    Find out what may be causing the agitation, and try to understand.
  • Provide reassurance.
    Use calming phrases such as: "You're safe here;" "I'm sorry that you are upset;" and "I will stay until you feel better." Let the person know you are there.
  • Involve the person in activities.
    Try using art, music or other activities to help engage the person and divert attention away from the anxiety.
  • Modify the environment.
    Decrease noise and distractions, or relocate (this is where covering a door or window to match wall may help).
  • Find outlets for the person's energy.
    The person may be looking for something to do. Take a walk or go for a car ride.
  • Check yourself.
    Do not raise your voice, show alarm or offense, or corner, crowd, restrain, criticize, ignore or argue with the person. Take care not to make sudden movements out of the person's view.
  • See the doctor.
    See the person with dementia's primary care physician to rule out any physical causes or medication-related side effects.
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jessiwar 3 years ago

Thanks for the help everyone 💜


member since may 2016

  1. Do things that you know she enjoys like letting her listen to her favorite music and if she enjoys the outside let her set on the porch. Do things like look through pictures with her to remind her of the good old day's
jessiwar 3 years ago

Thank you, it worked. I put her favorite song she used to listen to and she fell right to sleep. 

Elizabeth Hatton 3 years ago

So glad I could help you


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